Motivation - How to Get Your Child to Do Homework

Last Updated on Tuesday, 23 November 2010 12:22 Written by Consuelo Serbia Monday, 30 August 2010 07:54

By Tommy Kas

I think that there are entire books written on this subject, and if there are not I should definitely start on it. This becomes a chore for most parents instantly after their child gets home from school. They either say that there was no homework given, try to just do it very quickly or start whining that it is impossible for them to even think about it. Most of these actions are derived from an unstable family home life, and if we really think about it we might be able to start noticing the large gorilla in the room that we have been trying to hide. Kids are very sensitive, and are shaped very quickly as they watch our behaviors. Think back on childhood yourself, and remember what was your motivation to complete you work.

I have been able to see how my parents and environment has influence me, and am more than willing to share it with you. During my early years, I was brought up in eastern Europe and the teachers were able to hit kids as well as make laughing stocks out of them in front of class. It was not uncommon to be called to the front of the class for not completing an assignment and either get beat, called stupid or have to tell the entire class just how stupid you really are. This was an external motivator like no other. A lot of these things have changed since than, but there is a reason that alcoholism and other substance abuse is so prevailing in those nations.

As I have came to the United States, I have finally tasted the freedom we all have until we turn eighteen. No more beatings, and everything had to be politically correct. The teachers had no real power over you, and in case your parents tried to correct your behavior you could rat them out to the school for child abuse and have them dealt with. Now in this environment unless the child is taught from early years why it is important to be successful accidents and mishaps are bound to occur. Now, many parents do talk a lot but they don't show it with their actions. Think about where the child is going to learn more, from what you are saying to them or what you yourself are doing?

When we ask ourselves how to make our child do homework, we should really ask ourselves about the example that we are setting. It is easy to bribe a child with toys or tell them that there is not TV or dinner until homework is done. How do you think that is going to play out in the long run? Will you still be able to deny them those simple things when they are in middle school or higher? Those things can be done short term to start them on a routine but have to be stopped at some point. We have to come to a moment where the child will make the choice of doing the homework above the TV by themselves. Do not forget though, your kids are watching you like hawks.

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